Writing Challenge: How do you react to Flattery?

As a Filipino, it is in our culture to be humble that we don’t know how to react to compliments. If you’ve met a Filipino and have given that person a compliment, you may have experienced this scenario:

A: “You’re very pretty.”

B: “Not really.” / “I’m not.” / Complete silence

Yes. Most Filipinos are not used to getting compliments the same way that most of us rarely give compliments to each other too.

In high school, where most of one’s self discovery happens, I realized I can do so many things. I discovered I can sing in front of an audience when I was in 4th grade, I can act well and I can dance when I was a freshman, I can lead and think of so many creative presentations when I was in sophomore, I can win an impromptu speaking contest when I was in senior year. My friends would always tell me I’m talented. At that time, I really didn’t know how to react. Maybe to appear humble, I would say that I don’t think I am and would point at someone else who I think is better than me.

It took me a long time before I get comfortable getting compliments. I learned how to say “thank you” when I worked in an American company and understood how we should respond. For people like me who used to get embarrassed with compliments, here are some helpful tips.

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#1 THE BEST ANSWER IS TO SAY “THANK YOU!”

Sometimes, people will tell you you’re smart, you’re beautiful, you’re handsome, you’re sexy. Whether you believe it or not, just say thank you. Remember that people can have different perspective. For them to say what they think, for them to say something nice deserve an acknowledgement from your part. So again, whether you believe it or not, just accept the compliment and say “Thank you.”

#2 SAY IT WITH A SMILE

What is a thank you when your face says otherwise? Smile. Always remember that when you accept the positive words you are getting, you’ll eventually attract more.

#3 SOUND PLEASANT

If you sound sarcastic when saying “thank you” then you are not acknowledging the compliment.

Always remember that compliment and flattery are a good feeling. Every feeling that is good is positive. If you are always positive, you’ll attract all the positive things, emotions, events in the world. Accepting compliments add to one’s self esteem. You may not believe at first that you’re kind, or smart, or beautiful but if you just accept these compliments and you continue hearing them, you just don’t realize that you really are. Unknowingly, you open yourself to those possibilities and you start to radiate them. More and more people see those in you. Eventually, it will become a part of who you are.

So relax! Smile and say thank you! Feel good about the compliments.

More importantly, compliment others too. You just might brighten someone else’s day!

Cheers,

Miss D

Daily Prompt

Blue Lagoon: The Awakening

I just accidentally saw this full video of Blue Lagoon. Without any idea what it is about, I watched it to keep myself entertained. My… my… It turned out to be good. Although some questions could be raised about the plot, who cares! You have two beautiful people perfect for their characters (Brenton Thwaites and Indiana Evans). Watching it brings out strong emotions of passion and desire.

After checking more about the movie, I found out that there was a 1980’s classic Blue Lagoon starred by Brooke Shields. I know classics are classics and that no remake could ever replace them. Maybe it is a good thing I haven’t seen the 1980’s movie yet because I was able to see this with a fresh eye.

I say it is worth watching again.

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Daily Challenge: Grandma’s Words

The kettle whistled. It is time for tea. Lyka prepared the two usual white cups with gold lining. She poured the hot water on the cups and dipped the tea bags. She placed both cups, together with the sugar and the bottle of honey in a tray and started walking to the balcony. Sitting there on the wooden chair is an old woman wearing a simple dress printed with flowers of summer. She was staring at the sky when Lyka came.

Lyka: “Did i startle you grandma?”

Grandma: “Oh, not really my dear. Here, put that tray on the table and sit down.”

Lyka: “Grandma, can i ask you something?”

Grandma: “Of course.”

Lyka: “Why are we not rich like my classmate Pin? Every time I see her Facebook, she has all these new stuff. Nice clothes, pretty watched, trendy shoes. But me… Well, why aren’t we rich?”

Grandma: “When I was your age, i remember asking the same thing. My parents provided for me but it was just enough. I didn’t have the extra nice stuff too. When i asked my mother why we’re not rich, she told me that we should not live in material things because true riches are your family.”

“I believed that. When I graduated, i taught in Elementary. I was earning but it was just enough. Sometimes, me and your grandfather had to make ends meet. I have a him so I keep making myself believe i was rich. Your mom came and your uncle too. I have to be honest. We struggled a lot. ”

Lyka: “So you still think you’re rich though you and grandpa we’re struggling?”

Grandma: “No. Not really. I kept telling myself we don’t need money. As long as we’re together, I am rich. I told the same thing to your mom. Do you know see why we never had more?”

Lyka: “i don’t understand.”

Grandma: “Riches have many definitions. I can say I am rich with love from my family. But I have to be honest that I failed to see how I can also be wealthy. You see, my mother didn’t tell me how to grow money. The only thing that she said is important was my family. Or perhaps, I misunderstood her? ┬áSo, I never really focused on accumulating wealth. For me, as long as the family is together, that’s all that matters.”

“Money is not everything in this world. But if our family is our riches, we need to accumulate wealth too to provide for them. I guess, accepting that we need to learn how to make money grow will make a big difference for this family. This has been an excuse that we use just because we never had the dreams we wish we had. Here this out, Lyke. This is one thing you should not forget. You base your riches not from what your neighbor has. Invest your money, start a business. Compare your bank account last month to this month. Compare your assets last month to this month. That will tell you if you are getting better, getting richer. My hope is that you will do something different, something we’ve never done before. Go after your dreams. Grow your money and you’ll eventually enjoy the things you want. But never… never ever forget to take care and love the your family because money is just a vehicle in keeping what’s really important happy, that is your true riches, your family.”

Cheers,

Miss D

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