As a Filipino, it is in our culture to be humble that we don’t know how to react to compliments. If you’ve met a Filipino and have given that person a compliment, you may have experienced this scenario:
A: “You’re very pretty.”
B: “Not really.” / “I’m not.” / Complete silence
Yes. Most Filipinos are not used to getting compliments the same way that most of us rarely give compliments to each other too.
In high school, where most of one’s self discovery happens, I realized I can do so many things. I discovered I can sing in front of an audience when I was in 4th grade, I can act well and I can dance when I was a freshman, I can lead and think of so many creative presentations when I was in sophomore, I can win an impromptu speaking contest when I was in senior year. My friends would always tell me I’m talented. At that time, I really didn’t know how to react. Maybe to appear humble, I would say that I don’t think I am and would point at someone else who I think is better than me.
It took me a long time before I get comfortable getting compliments. I learned how to say “thank you” when I worked in an American company and understood how we should respond. For people like me who used to get embarrassed with compliments, here are some helpful tips.
#1 THE BEST ANSWER IS TO SAY “THANK YOU!”
Sometimes, people will tell you you’re smart, you’re beautiful, you’re handsome, you’re sexy. Whether you believe it or not, just say thank you. Remember that people can have different perspective. For them to say what they think, for them to say something nice deserve an acknowledgement from your part. So again, whether you believe it or not, just accept the compliment and say “Thank you.”
#2 SAY IT WITH A SMILE
What is a thank you when your face says otherwise? Smile. Always remember that when you accept the positive words you are getting, you’ll eventually attract more.
#3 SOUND PLEASANT
If you sound sarcastic when saying “thank you” then you are not acknowledging the compliment.
Always remember that compliment and flattery are a good feeling. Every feeling that is good is positive. If you are always positive, you’ll attract all the positive things, emotions, events in the world. Accepting compliments add to one’s self esteem. You may not believe at first that you’re kind, or smart, or beautiful but if you just accept these compliments and you continue hearing them, you just don’t realize that you really are. Unknowingly, you open yourself to those possibilities and you start to radiate them. More and more people see those in you. Eventually, it will become a part of who you are.
So relax! Smile and say thank you! Feel good about the compliments.
More importantly, compliment others too. You just might brighten someone else’s day!